A Woman’s Influence

I have always heard people say that women have the power to influence. But how do we influence?
Maybe you have asked the same question, but never received an answered.

God has revealed the answer to me. It may sound like a joke, but why is it that when we are passing through a desert or a difficult situation, we are much more sensitive to the voice of God, than when everything is going well.

Women can’t even imagine the influence they have on others! Their influence comes from their emotions.

We know that man is the provider, he brings home the food, he pays the bills and he is the protector. In other words, he is the head of the household.

He makes the final decisions and decides if something is allowed or not. When the opposite happens and the woman takes the reins, the marriage becomes a complete failure. In this case, there is no way they can be happy. Every woman wants to find her hero. No matter how much she tries to survive on her own, with her own strength and her supposed modernism, she will always feel frustrated!

However, the influence she has over her home comes from the emotions she carries. If something hurt or saddened her, she immediately reacts by seeking out a friend or even her husband to talk about what happened. Just because she needs to vent.

On the other hand, listening and understanding aren’t part of man’s characteristics. His instinct tells him to "take action" and solve the problem. That is exactly where a woman's influence comes in. She just wanted to vent, she wanted to talk about her feelings and her pains. She wants him to understand what she’s feeling, but she doesn’t have the slightest clue that she is causing a tremendous influence on her husband because of the way she’s acting.

He, as protector, winds up taking action with the intention of solving his wife’s problem, but only ends up getting in the way of that situation.

And who suffers because of this?

They both suffer and end up hurt! All because of a whim that blinds us and prevents us from thinking about the consequences of our influences.

Vivi Freitas